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Deciding and Power Statements

Self care is about *deciding* to take care of yourself fully in mind, body and spirit.

It’s a great idea because you feel good and grow when you are nurtured. It is a basic and preferred need of humans and animals. Not to mention it is a prerequisite for taking care of anything else in life.

The laws of nature & neuroscience suggest that what we put out comes back to us, that what we create in the mind manifests in our reality.


So it really makes sense to give this some thought. What am I putting out? Is that true to me? When is the last time you sat and had a good conversation with yourself?

Once you make the *decision* to jump on the self care train~ then what?  I like to trust that the things we need show up. They were always there, that friend who does sound healing or that meditation class on the schedule at the gym, but now you feel more drawn to them. By following that guidance things will continue to feel good, grow and nurture your soul.

So what will you decide?

I like to suggest starting simple and asking yourself questions.

What do I want?  Who do I want to show up as?  How can I set myself up to win?

Say what?

Well, the truth is you are many things. You are all of the emotions at various times and the key is to gather tools for this adventure, Learn to take care of yourself and love yourself at ALL times. Set realistic expectations. This makes it so much easier. Acceptance, mindfulness, a willingness to fail, feel insecure, selfish, judgmental etc. all become a part of the overall experience. You hold the power and wisdom to know these things are teachers and you can breathe through them.

Oh yes my loves breath. It’s THE TOOL.

A great relationship with your breath = great connection with emotions.

A good place to start is deciding and developing mantras that reflect your daily intentions. These can be used every morning to start your day. Think of it as a prayer or power statement to the universe or whatever feels *alive* for you. I like to list the things I intend for the day. It might go something like this:

I, Mama Shoop, am a brave, powerful, guided, protected, compassionate woman who attracts only those situations and experiences for my highest good and learning.

It can be nice to make a few power statements to go along with it. For example:

  • Today I am grateful.
  • Today I will accept all emotions as valuable teachers.
  • Today I will trust.
  • Today I respect all life,
  • Today I attract abundance.
  • Today I am protected.
  • I send love and light to +++++++++loved ones, higher self, past self, future self, etc.

Add things & people as they come up and you are working on them in your life. Sometimes I need to add: Today I will notice my breath. Today I will notice my posture. etc.  Some of these things might seem like Duh! but I like to list them to remind myself, because remembering to remember is THE hardest part of it all.

It’s also about learning to listen. Your *self* (the body, the mind, the soul) will tell you what it needs. Some things are easy to address like hunger or being tired, but others are difficult to notice until you learn to listen to your needs. Self awareness is cultivated in stillness, contemplative practice and in love.

We begin by loving the self. That’s right, I love me!! You love you!!

The first step can simply be looking in the mirror and repeating it to yourself “I love you”. Do this as many times as necessary until you feel something, maybe even believe it. 🙂 This is a powerful practice which I recommend doing daily. I do it always when I get out of the car before I am going to meet with someone, see a client, deliver healing or any interaction. I say it to my love each time I depart, so why not myself each time I leave our alone time together?

A daily practice of stillness such as meditation, restorative yoga or a conscious relaxed state will bring you to closer intimacy with your true self. The desires of your soul begin to arise and answers to your heart’s questions become clear.

This is the power of stillness, of listening.

A simple way to start right now is to sit comfortably (or lie down if you prefer) and soften the body. Slow the breath and let go in the muscles until you feel your skin is gently draping over the skeleton. Notice the breath and it’s connection to the body, the way it is received and surrendered. If thoughts arise, simply go back to the breath. Do this as long as you like.  A timer is wonderful in this practice. Start small and work your way up, even if you only have 1-5 minutes it’s something! (Insight Timer App is pretty sweet)

It is important to remember this is a process. The daily practice is the work and the journey. Forgiveness is key, especially of self. Things we’ve experienced or participated in come up, and they’ve occured to us as wrong, but if you can look at it as a teaching you will find gratitude for that lesson and let it go.

Onward and upward.



You’ve got this!

I’d love to hear from you what your self care practices are as well as what you’d like to know more about. As always, I wish you happiness and freedom 🙂

Love you,

Mama Shoop

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